My wife is a recovering alchoholic and I am an Al-Anon.  I have come to realize after a year in the program is that it's not her alchoholism that makes me crazy but our relationship problems. I found that she had an affair last year while she was spiraling.  When she was in recovery, she admitted to me that she cheated on me for the four years we were dating in college (many times).  When she did come out of treatment, I found out that she had another affair in the rehab program.  We are still together, have four little boys and seem to be doing well--she's doing well--doing the next right thing... I'm the one with the problems now!  I can't seem to let go of the affairs and my anger is now hurting our relationship.  I need a group or forum to discuss this...any advice is very welcome!