It has been a difficult road in my marriage to my husband. We have been married for a year and a half. It was not the porn that made me come to realize he was a sex addict, I was going through his things one day and I saw a 1 800 number for sex addicts. Dumbfounded by what I had found I called the number. I am new to this sex addiction thing and not quite sure how to feel about it. He has thousands of dollars in credit card debt from mainly purchasing porn. I found phone numbers to several women on a sheet of paper. I found long distance calls to women on our telephone bill. He has 4 different email addresses  from with different passwords for each one. I found several emails and one specifically that he sent to a woman setting up a time and place to meet on a Sunday or a Monday. Those are the days he's off from work and I am at work. When I confronted him about it he got extremely angry said they were old emails, what am I doing in his things and to stay out and he changed all his email addresses. I  found his organizer book with listings of adult websites with usernames and passwords on them. It has been truly gut wrenching to be married and in love with this man. He is a christian he is attending seminary right now getting his master's degree. He is even better than some professors he graduated cum laude for his undergrad. I don't understand. Not saying he is supposed to perfect but when do you get convicted and decide to stop. It has been a rough road and the pain is indescribable it hurts so much I know I should forgive and I am trying. We got into an argument like I said and he did move out that was not what I really wanted I was speaking from pain and anger.

I am trying to understand your feelings, because it will help me to understand mines.

For said you the true, I found out that my husband is a sex addict 3 years after I know him.  I am Spanish and he is American. At the end of the year,  I flew to my original country and I am still here thinking what to do.  He used to be for me my sun, every thing because after we were fiances, we didn´t have friends.  He was my only friend.  I felt betrayed for my husband that represented for me all my family in U.S.A.  He was for me my best friend too.  He wants me to come back and I don´t know what to do, is like said: I am here, hurt me more.  I think the only solution could be the Sex Addicts and Co addicts meetings, because I feel sometimes no just anger but very depress, even thought I am 30.000 thousand miles away from him. You are lucky. You are from there.  You have your world there. Me no.