Recent Breakup

Submitted by mt123451 on Mon, 2008-10-13 09:27.

I have just signed up for this program, and will be trying to attend a meeting in Buckhead soon. I have been in a relationship with my best friend, absolute soulmate for over 3 years....she promised me she was leaving her husband (anyone heard that before)? He just found our 2nd cell phone, and like an idiot I started using text messages about three weeks ago, so he could see everything...so it is all in black and white. She chose to stay in the marriage, two kids....so I can understand, he would have crucified her. However, looking back I believe there is some chance that I was as much 'obsessed' as I was in love. I see most of the posts being more of the 'sex' addiction that 'love' or 'relationship', are their groups that focus on one more than the other?

It has only been two weeks, so I am an absolute mess right now...no sleep, just playing 'whatif' over and over and again.

 

thanks for your support

 

mt123451

Submitted by bill_h on Tue, 2008-10-14 00:20.
Thanks for posting, and I hope you get to a meeting.....ANY meeting.....soon.  You will find experience, strength and hope that will allow you to answer these important questions in greater depth as you gain clarity of thinking.  SLAA meetings specifically include "love addiction" as part of their focus, so you may want to consider that as your main fellowship.  However, all of the meetings of every fellowship are about powerlessness and unmanagability, and obsession is a key characteristic.